EP. 1: Designing Life and Love with Intention
- odettecoronel
- Oct 6
- 8 min read
To change our lives, we need to look inward and confront these feelings that keep surfacing. Feeling lost or stuck can mean we want to explore or move on from our current situation. Feeling like we don’t have any clarity can mean you want to start researching your options. And since you are in charge of your life, you can start designing your next steps.
As a life and relationship coach, I see so many of my clients shy away from these feelings before they explore them. They feel as if changing any aspect of their lives is too much change for them to fully be in charge of. But it’s your life. It’s your relationship. You are allowed to change, edit, and evolve as much as you’d like!
In this week’s episode, we're going to talk about what it means to live life and love by design. It’s time to stop living by default, start taking ownership of your life, and start creating and designing the life and the relationship that you want to live. And we can do so together. Listen to this week’s episode to hear how you can identify some of these difficult feelings and start designing your life and your love with intention.
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Transcript: Episode 1: Designing Life and Love with Intention
Let me ask you something. Have you ever felt stuck, afraid of change, maybe a lack of clarity or a lack of direction? If so, then listen up because today's episode is just for you. Welcome to Episode one of Life and Love by Design. Today's episode is called Designing Life and Love with Intention, and it's pretty much an introductory episode to my podcast.
Odette: I'm your host, Odette Cornell. I am an accredited professional coach and LP practitioner and relationship mentor. So in today's episode, we're gonna talk about what it means to live life and love by design. And what I mean by that is to help you stop living by default, start taking ownership of your life and start creating and designing the life and the relationship that [00:01:00] you want to live.
With intention, with purpose, with joy, with all of those things that feel truly aligned with what you want, this episode is for you if maybe you feeling a little lost. Or you've lost your spark within yourself, or maybe you've lost a spark in your marriage or your relationship and you wanna learn how to get it back.
Maybe you've been picking the wrong type of partners, even though you wanna find your person, person two, settle down with and get married and have children, but you just keep attracting the wrong type of partners. Or maybe you're just feeling a lack of clarity or lack of direction, perhaps you've got a really successful career and you keep getting promoted and you're just following that every step on that ladder of success.
But when you get to the top of that ladder, you're still feeling kind of unfulfilled. Or maybe you're super comfortable, comfortable in your job, and that comfort is kind of keeping you [00:02:00] stuck because secretly you're daydreaming about, you know, starting a business or maybe traveling the world and you feel that you don't wanna risk it because you're comfortable.
Right now. There are so many examples we can go on and on. And I wanna start off by saying that if you're feeling this way, first of all, it's okay. You're totally normal. We all experience this. The fact is that I believe human beings are meant to evolve. They're meant to grow. They're not supposed to stay stagnant.
So we get that feeling so that we can reflect and think about our lives and reevaluate and decide, you know, what do we wanna do next? We wanna become intentional with our lives. So that feeling of stuckness or that feeling of. La lack of clarity or direction, it's there for a reason. It serves a purpose.
So if you're feeling that it's fine, nothing is wrong, nothing's wrong with you, and nothing is wrong with your life, [00:03:00] however, you do want to use that as a means or as a starting point to really. Reflect and do something different. Decide on purpose. I always say we wanna do what we do with intention. So let me tell you a little bit about myself.
As I mentioned before, I am a coach. I work with clients one-on-one. I also work with couples. I do group coaching. I'm also doing group supervision now, and in addition to that. I am a mom. I have three children. They're grown now. Um, and I've been happily married to my best friend for 26 years now, and at the same time that my husband and I were raising our children and starting our family, we also started a business together and ran that business for all these years.
So I know what it's like to be in every transition of. A relationship of motherhood of life and those moments where you start to reevaluate again, and you start to decide on purpose, am I really feeling fulfilled? [00:04:00] Is this really where I want to be and where do I wanna go next? So I also know what it's like to have lots of things going on at the same time and feel overwhelmed and sometimes lose yourself in your roles.
Sometimes us moms lose ourselves in our roles as moms or as wives, and we're serving others. We have to be reminded to put our own oxygen mask on first. Throughout my journey, I've learned a few key things that have really served as like my guiding principles, and I just wanna share a few of those with you there.
There are a lot, and I'll probably be sharing more as we go throughout the podcast, but just for today. First and foremost, I want to say that it's very important to make sure that when you're choosing your life partner, that you choose wisely.
that decision is gonna impact every area of your life. It's gonna impact your finances, your career, how you parent your mental [00:05:00] health, your physical health, everything.
And also, I really believe that the person that you choose to spend your life with can be a tremendous resource. In your life and that person should be your safe haven and the where you feel the most seen and loved and appreciated and not your source of struggle, which we see so often as a relationship coach.
I often see I situations where the partners. Our adversaries, we see each other as adversaries, as opposed to seeing each other as a team, as in it together, you and I, against the problem. Another really important thing that I believe and that I've instilled in my children, I talk about with my clients, and I live based on this myself, is to get really clear on what your values are.
What matters most to you, because your values really serve as your guiding principles. When you're clear on what your values [00:06:00] are and what matters most to you, that serves as your compass, that's gonna help you make decisions. It's going to help you know how to show up, how you wanna behave, what you wanna do.
So be very clear and think about what your values are. The third thing that I wanted to share with you is that although it's really important to be clear on where we're going and that vision that we have for our lives, I wanna remind you that it's really also important to take a minute, be present, and enjoy the journey.
It's not just about the destination. So what I mean by that is enjoy the day to day, enjoy your life every single day. Find things to be grateful for. Be present because the fact is I heard someone once say that the top of one mountain is the bottom of the next, and it's so true. We, reach one destination and we're looking for the next.
It's okay to change our mind. It's okay to pivot. It's okay to reflect and reevaluate [00:07:00] and change, as I said before. Human beings are not meant to be stagnant. We're not meant to stay where we are. We're not meant to be stuck. We're meant to grow. We're meant to change and evolve. Think about your life from the moment you were born.
In that first year alone. We change and grow so much. There's nothing wrong with us at any stage of our growth. It's just we're meant to grow. We're meant to evolve. So when we look at ourselves and we're feeling stuck. It's okay. We reflect, but we still enjoy the journey. We still enjoy where we're at now as we continue in a different direction.
So if you remember just one thing from today's episode, remember you are not stuck. You have a choice and you're just growing. You're just evolving. It's okay. So I'm gonna leave you with a few questions that I want you to think about. The first one is in order to create and design the life and the [00:08:00] love that we want, we have to know what that looks like.
So if you had a magic wand, what would the life and the love that you wanna live look like? What does it look like? What would it feel like? How could you describe it? Think about it. And also if you had that life. What would you do? What kind of thing? What would your behavior be? What kind of actions would you be taking?
What would your energy be like? And who would you have to be in order to live that life and that love? What kind of person would you have to be? What would, what's, what's your identity, right? So think about those things. And then the last thing is. Let's say you didn't do anything. Let's say you said, you know what?
I'm just gonna stay where I am. I'm gonna stay stuck. I'm comfortable. I'm fine where I'm at, which is totally fine. Again, it's your choice. You don't have to do anything. Nothing's gone [00:09:00] wrong. But let's say that you didn't make a change. You didn't, you chose not to design your life and your love with intention and on purpose, and you just kind of remain, just kind of.
As things are right now, how would you feel maybe a year from now if you're still, as you are today, would you feel content or fulfilled, or would you still be longing for something else? So this week I'm gonna invite you to decide to be more intentional in a one small area of your life. So maybe it's, you're going to make sure that you.
Put your phone away while you're having dinner with your family, or maybe you're gonna decide that you're gonna wake up 10 minutes earlier and maybe meditate or just have a more relaxed morning, or maybe you're gonna start going for a walk in the morning, whatever it is. The point is, what is it that [00:10:00] you are going to decide to become more intentional about on purpose?
One small thing that's gonna have a positive impact. On your life. Remember, we don't have to change everything all at once, and we don't have to do something huge. Small shifts are what make a really big difference. So start with this small thing. The point is being intentional. We're starting a practice of being intentional.
Thank you for joining me here today and spending your time with me. I am so excited to get started on this journey together. You know, I really want this podcast to be a resource for my clients. For my listeners, for my children even. So I'm gonna be sharing valuable tools, different perspectives, maybe some stories from my clients or conversations.
And I'm also gonna be inviting some interesting guests that have some great wisdom to share. And I wanna offer you content that you find really valuable. So I'm asking my [00:11:00] clients and my family, and I'm asking you my listeners. Send me any questions that you have. Email me at life coach@odetteco.com and if you have anything you want, hear any suggestions for podcast episodes, I wanna hear that too.
If anything that you heard on this episode today resonated with you, please subscribe to this podcast. Maybe like and share this episode and help us grow. And I'll be here next Wednesday and every Wednesday. Until next time, remember, your life and your love are yours to design.
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